Reading how to books and self-coaching is an excellent way of getting to know yourself, quietly receiving answers you need, or resolving a secret issue you’ve been stuck on. Not only that, the only challenge will come from you and the only thing standing in the way of your personal development will be you!
I’ve had many ‘aha’ and self-congratulatory moments through coaching myself using self development workbooks. I refer to this as ‘Self-Coaching’ Matses.
Self-Coaching yourself in this way is great if you’re:
Too busy for one-on-one coaching;
Someone who doesn’t like to go out much;
Trying to keep limiting beliefs to yourself;
Not ready to be coached by anyone else; and
Working on your own personal development without anyone else knowing – that way no-one will be disappointed if you give it up or mess it up.
However to get the most out of this form of coaching you’ll need to be:
Committed to creating the change you want;
Willing to do whatever it takes to develop yourself, eg spiritual development courses, up-skilling, coaching etc;
Aware of when you need outside help.
Please Note: From experience, self-coaching will not be enough if there are deeper issues needing to be resolved; and
The driver behind the wheel of change – it’s your life; you’re in charge of your destiny.
Self-coaching can help (depending on the severity of the issue) find strategies to apply to:
A relationship break-up or make-up;
Work related issues;
Indecision – something you’ve always dreamed of doing is forever being pushed aside and you need to make a decision;
House move – do I stay or do I leave?
Itchy feet and wanting to explore and experience a new lifestyle; and
A powerful step towards changing what you no longer want into something you really want is by remembering and experiencing what you’d like to change. Then, as you close the door of the past behind you, aim for and take action to making it happen.
Start by goal-setting the what, why, how of transformation, and when you want it to happen by.
A few more tips if you’re coaching yourself are:
Keep a diary or journal and write in it every day of how you worked towards achieving inner change. You’ll be able to look back and reflect upon your journey, how you did it, the frustrations, obstacles, and triumphs. It will also give you a sense of achievement, after all you did it.
Become aware of how you do things and ask yourself “if you could do this in a better way, how would you do it?”
As you coach yourself, at the end of every week summarise what you’ve written and determine what changes you can make easily for the following week.
Learn to meditate to give you inner peace as well as clarity not only whilst working with your situation but also to give yourself another self-help tool for your ‘life skill toolkit’.
Take up a spiritual development course and increase your intuition. People use their intuition practically every day without realising it, increasing your intuition can help in all areas of your life.
Inform everyone who needs to know that you’ll be offline for however long your self coaching sessions will be. Once you’ve organised your time, be ruthless and stick to your timetable. Failing to do this will result in a nasty thing called procrastination to hold you captive!
Make a special note of any limiting beliefs you discover about yourself. For example, maybe you have a hang up around earning an income, or maybe you’re not as confident as you like to believe you are. In this case if you are unable to find solutions to these beliefs it’s time to call upon the services of a transformational coach or other professional (this applies to anything you’re unable to effectively work through).
The success of any ‘Self-Coaching’ program is dependent on two things:
Your level of commitment; and
The quality and content of the workbook itself. It must be designed and developed by someone with coaching experience, an understanding of adult learning principles and the ability to encapsulate it all in ‘simple speak’.
Self-coaching has been an excellent ‘self-help’ tool for me over the years; however it doesn’t replace one-on-one transformational coaching and nor should it (for those deeper issues), however it may also work for you as it has for me.